Office Affairs - Should I or Should I Not?

[alan0338]

i guess TS think too much liao la ...

[5ag1_Boar]

Originally Posted by ipad3

Bro, honestly, I am thinking of a serious relationship. When I say that her husband is frequently abroad, it means that he is unable to accompany her and most of the time, we will go out for dinner before we go our separate ways (since she drives).

Thing is: I am attracted to her and the chemistry is right. Till today, I maintain a respectable distance whenever I am with her and no, sex is not on the agenda.

Sex is not on the agenda? Serious relationship? All the more the answer is NO!

If you respect her, then again, the answer is NO!

Don't be a home-wrecker. What is the ultimate goal of a serious relationship? Do you expect her to leave him eventually and be with you completely? Or you think you can maintain a clandestine relationship long term without want, guilt, regret or getting caught? What about her guilt as a mother and wife (if she takes it up with you)?

[ipad3]

Originally Posted by alan0338

i guess TS think too much liao la ...

LOL.. Maybe, but after reading the advise of bro, maybe I should just maintain a working relationship with my colleague.

You guys are right, she have a kid, so it is not wise to wreck her family.

Thanks bro!

[5ag1_Boar]

Originally Posted by ipad3

LOL.. Maybe, but after reading the advise of bro, maybe I should just maintain a working relationship with my colleague.

You guys are right, she have a kid, so it is not wise to wreck her family.

Thanks bro!

Glad you came to your senses. Be on your guard: as both of you seem close, feelings might go too far without you realising. You might even want to consider increasing your distance from her.

[fictionman]

I think TS has a motive in starting this thread...He stated the kid's age, her car model, his & her job scope....Either he trying to tell his friends abt her or he trying to sabo her....Tryin to decipher this Da Vinci code

[happpy]

Originally Posted by ipad3

Hey bros and sis,

Would be glad if you guys and gals could give me some constructive feedback on a problem that I am facing:

Let's call her Evelyn.

Evelyn is a colleague of mine seated in front of me in the office. She joined the company earlier than I do and we do different scope of work - she is in charge of properties while I am in charge of cars.

Evelyn is 30 this year, married, with a daughter around 8 years old. Despite that, she looks very good and not someone her age. She owns a Toyota Axio and drives to work herself. A very independent lady. Her husband is 29 and frequently travels aboard.

We enjoy much conversation in the office considering that she is the nearest colleague to me and also the fact that we are of similar age group. She appears to be conservative but yet, I can see the wild side of her (which I believe is still being suppressed by her).

Should I go after her or not, that is the question.

All these nonsense thinking like seeing the wild side of her is coming from you,
You cannot deny that you have sexual intention on her. In addition this is hard to guage that she share the same thoughts as you. Morever you are not rich and she is pretty well to do.

I think at the end of the day you will receive a tight slap from her, if you try anything funny. stop being a fool pls

[happpy]

Originally Posted by fictionman

I think TS has a motive in starting this thread...He stated the kid's age, her car model, his & her job scope....Either he trying to tell his friends abt her or he trying to sabo her....Tryin to decipher this Da Vinci code

I think he a bad guy. shall we ....

[MimeBoxer]

Hi Bro Ipad,

I know what's going over in your mind right now and do I agree with you sometimes its hard to resist. On emotional level, there is no right or wrong.

Question for you at the end of the day. Is this worthy to take the plunge? Or this is just a temporary crush and die die you must get into a intimate relationship with her?

IMHO, forget about her and go for someone else.
Cheers!

[bus72]

Of cours the answer is, No!

[sam seah]

U think too much. Have you eaten your medicine?

[ipad3]

Originally Posted by MimeBoxer

Hi Bro Ipad,

I know what's going over in your mind right now and do I agree with you sometimes its hard to resist. On emotional level, there is no right or wrong.

Question for you at the end of the day. Is this worthy to take the plunge? Or this is just a temporary crush and die die you must get into a intimate relationship with her?

IMHO, forget about her and go for someone else.
Cheers!

Thanks bro. It's just a feeling that come into my mind, having been in close proximity with the person for about a year.

And no, this is not "Da Vinci" code like some bros point out to be. In fact, what I can say is that even if her husband read this, her husband would not know it is her.

Thanks.

[fictionman]

Originally Posted by happpy

I think he a bad guy. shall we ....

Mayb he is tryin to sabo her marriage...Of all the name he named her Evelyn...Mayb tt is her real name or some name tt sounds like Evelyn..Mayb Lynn, Adeline....Cfm her kid is 8 yrs old, her hubby 29 & "Evelyn" is 30...He might say he +- her age but why de number 8,29 & 30 if its not real??!!!...

By saying the model of the car is a dead give away clue...She wrks in properties & he in cars...Mayb wrkin at Centre Mgmt Office of a shopping ctr??!!!...

Man...Think I watch too many re-runs of National Treasure on Fox Movies...Now thinkin like Benjamin Gates looking for clues hahahaha

[Rainman444]

I see all most replies making great sense here! Glad many bros here are sensible and not just to take pot shots.
As for TS.... yup the same advise.... such stories are so typhical... you started off just thinking its pure friendship... then its leads to more! What if the lady turn out to be the one to lost her senses? But I must still say its your fault if you started it.
Cheers! Do treasure the good office relations.... but stay your distance, especially when its a married lady.

[ipad3]

Great. I got zapped by someone for asking for advise.

I seriously condemn the person who zap me.

Did I break her marriage? Even the "investigator" got many things wrong... Why the age numbers? It's for me to know and to conceal the identity of the person I am talking about. And Eveyln? Because I like this name due to an actress who is now married with a fellow actor.

Got it? Want to zap, just zap all the way... Really feel very perturbed by all this childish zapping.

[Iemanishere]

I know how you feel.. but my 20cent is that u take things as it goes ... dont break a family unless it broken... but you dont go breaking... hor.. cheers