How do you introduce fetish to your partner?

[avalonhw]

Thinking of starting this thread to discuss ways to help us open up to our partners about our fetish. I believe there are many brothers like me who have fetishes that we don't share fully with our partner because we are worried that she may not comfortable with it.

I always wanted to try and threesome or foursome, partner knows but always shrugged it off. I know communication is key here, the problem is how to communicate properly. Wondering if there are experienced brothers who can give advice on this. End of the day, hope to be able to enjoy this journey consensually and respectfully with the partner.

(not sure if there's already another thread on this. If there is, can link here)

[sammyboyfor]

Originally Posted by avalonhw

Thinking of starting this thread to discuss ways to help us open up to our partners about our fetish. I believe there are many brothers like me who have fetishes that we don't share fully with our partner because we are worried that she may not comfortable with it.

I always wanted to try and threesome or foursome, partner knows but always shrugged it off. I know communication is key here, the problem is how to communicate properly. Wondering if there are experienced brothers who can give advice on this. End of the day, hope to be able to enjoy this journey consensually and respectfully with the partner.

(not sure if there's already another thread on this. If there is, can link here)

If your partner refuses to do threesomes the next step is to ask her for permission for you to hire some whores instead.

[lilmei]

Your wife into use of sex toy? Get a good vibrating dildo and eye mask. Ask her to wear the eye mask. As she is blinded, get her arouse and stick the dildo into her. When she is high, licker, suck, rub your dick on her ass or whatever. Best is make her sick u off when the dildo is pleasuring her.

Point is to simulate 3P. Slowly talk to her like dirty talk to sense if she likes it then patiently edge the idea into her. Have patience.

[bighead111]

Interesting topic.

I tried to plant the idea of someone else (not me) is touching her while we are doing foreplay but her stance is strong.

I find it amusing and also interesting/challenging to change her mindset.

It started with me one day, telling her while she's naked and me sucking, squeezing her breasts, dear, my friends say my wife breasts are very big, they want to see.
She answered me back, only my husband can see, no one else. I ignored her and continue with my speech about my friends want to see her breasts. Eventually, she caved in and followed with my idea and said, they can only see but cannot touch.

After a couple of times, she always repeats that it is only for her husband and no one else. At the end, she will sometimes add, I don't like it. I ignored as well and just repeated the next time.

In our last session, I up the scenario by saying that your husband ask me to touch you, at first she says no but I keep repeating and she gave up and played along with me. But I can sense her hesitation when I ask her to touch my dick (not husband). So I focus fully on her as an outsider and I she cum pretty quick that day.

So there is a glimmer of hope even though it might not happen for real but at least can play the fantasy.

[titts82002]

Originally Posted by avalonhw

Thinking of starting this thread to discuss ways to help us open up to our partners about our fetish. I believe there are many brothers like me who have fetishes that we don't share fully with our partner because we are worried that she may not comfortable with it.

I always wanted to try and threesome or foursome, partner knows but always shrugged it off. I know communication is key here, the problem is how to communicate properly. Wondering if there are experienced brothers who can give advice on this. End of the day, hope to be able to enjoy this journey consensually and respectfully with the partner.

(not sure if there's already another thread on this. If there is, can link here)

Starts from watching pornography about 3P, 4P and/ or orgy?
It is just a matter of pre-conditioning her and watch her response. Then you decide how to start speaking about fetish… find out her and tell her yours.

Look for swinger parties/ swapping exchange parties, see how it goes.. not easy as different person turns on differently. Vice versa…


Sometime, we do not force, it must be mutual….

Best of luck to you.
It is good you want to explore your fetish with your wife

I am lazy and I paid for the 3P or whatever….
Paid service…. Get them done, paid and go home…

[avalonhw]

Thanks for all the suggestion bros. Solving the problem with money is definitely easier but I also seen so many horror stories once trust is broken. Not sure if I'm too naive to think so, but hopefully one day can get my partner to be enjoying the same adventures together.

[titts82002]

Originally Posted by avalonhw

Thanks for all the suggestion bros. Solving the problem with money is definitely easier but I also seen so many horror stories once trust is broken. Not sure if I'm too naive to think so, but hopefully one day can get my partner to be enjoying the same adventures together.

Hope you resolve a way to get into much more exciting. Life with your partner

Another way is talk her into swapping relationship..
not easy, but never try never know
The word you used is right , “ trust”
Telling the truth is also a form of trust. Tell her at least how you feel and think truthfully.

[kunikny]

Originally Posted by avalonhw

Thanks for all the suggestion bros. Solving the problem with money is definitely easier but I also seen so many horror stories once trust is broken. Not sure if I'm too naive to think so, but hopefully one day can get my partner to be enjoying the same adventures together.

Hi bro,
Thanks for starting this thread and sharing intimate details of you and wifey. I am also very interested in this topic but just like you am also newbie in this with zero experience of actualizing my fantasies. I have recently latched on to this platform on the lifestyle of swinging but am hesitate to participate as we are not ready emotionally. I am thinking of starting with soft swing like SRS (same room sex) with a newbie couple just like you and wifey as this has zero physical contact but akin to watching and acting out a live porn reciprocally. Do pm me to see where this will lead us. Cheers.

[johnqoo]

think many people have this problem. me included. for me personally its unshaved armpits/stubbie ones. i struggle to bring this up to my official partners as this is major taboo in society nowadays

[avalonhw]

Missus got quite naughty during father's day. Halfway through dinner, she told me she was going to got to the toilet to take out her panties. She suggested to visit a club after dinner so she could dance in her airy skirt, but we were too tired so we went home to fuck instead. Looks like a step in the right direction!

[titts82002]

Originally Posted by avalonhw

Missus got quite naughty during father's day. Halfway through dinner, she told me she was going to got to the toilet to take out her panties. She suggested to visit a club after dinner so she could dance in her airy skirt, but we were too tired so we went home to fuck instead. Looks like a step in the right direction!

Good !!!!

[kt88_2]

I like oral personally, give her a good long lick,all will be ok ,lol, being single sian I hv to find one fb to eat regularly,lol