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Originally Posted by hydeparkk
Your 1920s comment cracked me up! 🤣 I guess a part of me still wants to maintain a respectable image infront of my husband. I am good in my work, have a healthy social circle, take care of my family and myself so in a way I am trying not to spoil my own image infront of him.
I will follow your advice to build intimacy with him first. It will be something that we both need to get used to. Hopefully, it will help him open up and find the need to do something about the situation.
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You mentioned 'take care of my family' which I presumed refer to just your hubby and yourself not including any children right?
Before marriage have you both talked about having children after marriages? If you have than you can start talking about having children again. But no penetrative sex how to? I presumed after marriage you both did attempt to have sex right? So what happened? He can't maintain his erection? Even after you tried to stimulate him?
Then either he has a medical problem which he can only find out by consulting a doctor or he is gay (homosexual). If he is gay and out of embarrassment or family/social pressure he is hiding behind a sham marriage to save face then if you are happy to remain in such a situation then no advice is required. Just continue satisfying yourself with your extramarital affairs.
But if he is having a medical problem then how to have solution without consultation right? If he is so shy to speak to a doctor then you can speak to your gynaecologist first to ask for advice, eg if his problem can be solved with supplement or diet. Or perhaps the gynaecologist can recommend a specialist to treat him. If he is shy to speak to the doctor you can talk to the doctor first before he goes in or go together and you speak on his behalf.
If all this still come to nought then he is probably gay!