Guilt is eating me up
 

I have protect sex(bj/fj) with an FL 2 months ago. Last month went for test(GP, should be the latests test method) turns out negetive. Do i need to go for another test next month? Or Am i just thinking "toooooooooo" much after tons of research of HIV on the net. "I WANT TO QUIT"!

Re: Guilt is eating me up
 

It is understood that the incubation for HIV and other viruses such as genital herpes can be as long as 6 mths. If it is bacterial related diseases such as syphillis, it would have shown up quite early.

If it bothers you, go for another test another 4 mths time. Tests do not cost much money anyway.

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I think for HIV, the window period has been reduced to 1-3 mths according to the AFA counsellors. 3 mths can confirm the results. But then for the other viruses, the incubation are longer, like Bro Jpimp has mentioned.

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Bro,

You went the right way and had protected sex (BJ and FJ). That means you have put yourself at minimal risk. I am sure if you ask any HIV educator, they would have told you, you need not go for a test. However, if the only way you can allay your fears is to go for a test, then go ahead. If you are willing to wait, then your GP can do, otherwise, a quick way is to go for the AfA test. Results are out in about 15 mins. Details of the time and venue are in my signature. Another thing is not to research too much, or else sooner or later, you will experience some symptom and deduce it to be HIV related. Go an expert and let them assess your risk. Best of luck!

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I think i need some mental couselling too. have been losing weight(1.5kg)

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Bro! sometimes, if u tink too much, u will lose weight. Dun worry too much. Life has to go on. :)

Ur protected BJ n FJ is confirm safe. If there is no leakage in the condom, then u need not fret over it. If u r doing raw then thats a different thing bro.

It is ok to have sex. Thats y there are legal WL in GL. They are regularly monitored by DSC. So if u stick to GL WL, n with protected FJ n BJ, u shd be fine. It is normal to have paid sex for singles, u noe sometimes we do have urges.

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Thx bro Sorin, you can go be a counselor liao lol. i think after i take my test next month i will feel ok liao thx.

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Bro FL_Noob,
Don't be too worried. The odds are going to be you will test negative. Protective sex puts you at minimal risk, that's why i wonder why so many people want to risk it all. Tsk..tsk. Anyway, let us know how the results go ok?

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U must have good resistance to tempation. I have been wanting to quite for ages but now stop quiting. Damn, they are quite addictive .......

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Bro, i not counsellor standard lah. Haha, i myself also cannot tahan the temptation leh. Have to rely on counsellors to help me too.

Rds,
Sorin^^

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I hope bros who want to quit can quit successfully. Give some spare throughs to the person who cares about you. Cherish them quit taking risk.

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btw bros "minimal risk" means 1/1000 next to 0??

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Hi FL Noob, i have 2 qns for you..

qn.1 -Do you have a steady GF and She is getting it on a regular basis? if so, is that the main reason why you are so paranoid? If so,

qn.2 - I do agree with the other Bros about your status, One bonk, Tested -Ve and assuming you stayed clean during the period from your first bonk and now, you are very safe...

It's Psychological, you are now feeling the guilt of a "socially Unacceptable" act, which "punishes" you for you "naughty" behaviour.
First step to this is to take a few deep breaths and counter the negative thoughts....

Make up your mind on whether you wanna Screw around, or put your limits to just HJ, Etc...

So when you "happen" to enter a HC, TN or any other possible fuk joint, you will b mentally prepared and not caught up in this predictiment again.

Also another good sign for you....

Just imagine, if you capped and kenna HIV, STD or Aids.. then probably the whole world also kenna... Who will be safe? they didnt invent that product for nothing...

HIV transmits thru bloud or fulids... unless you did not disclosed you ate your Cunt on the first round with you have sores .....

Anyway,you Fuked Smart on the first round and you should keep it that way, so you would have to worry and the other bros wouldnt be worried for you..



:)

Re: Guilt is eating me up
 

i understand the feeling u sitting at home, feeling helpless..

ur chance of aids is non existant, even if u have unprotected sex ur percent is like 2%? and that is if your partner has AIDS, so end up is like tio toto like that kind of odds. With a condom, u are safe so dont worry.

u might as well worry about being knocked down by car if you are worrying about this!

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No bro i don't have a gf, i am still single. The main reason is that i have a family that cares about me alot. I went to try cause i am single and lonely, then now feeling regret about it, cause if anything happen the ones who suffer most is not me, it will be my family who cares about me.

I am too paranoid to go for another bonk, i think this feeling will at least last for years.

Bro currently now i am wait for my ns enlistment letter. I am really "Sitting at home, feeling helpless.."